Tag: 3rdF

3rd F meetups are service and faith related where faith is believing the world is bigger than just yourself

  • IN WHAT IS OUR SATISFACTION?

    DTH’S RECENT REVELATIONS

    Having Covid sucks

    I value energy, strength, motivation

    Have felt stir crazy, frustrated, sick and tired

    I value my work, and exercising all 3 F’s with my F3 brothers

    My Dry January – no booze, no screens, no sweets

    Have been seeking God for a fresh indwelling of the Holy Spirit

    How can I “Fan into flame”…???

    2 Tim 1:6-7

    For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 

    BUT, I HAVE FOUND

    Devotions & prayer feel lackluster / monotonous 

    Fasting feels empty of return, especially with having Covid illness

    Find my flesh tugging for indulgence

    Connections with friends and family feels distant and superficial, lacking challenge/excitement

    I am bessed beyond belief. Have I become lukewarm and complacent? Do I need all these riches and blessings? 

    Revelation 3:16

    So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth. For you say, I am rich, I have prospered, and I need nothing, not realizing that you are wretched, pitiable, poor, blind, and naked.

    Fulfillment felt more abundant in the PNG mission field…

    SO…how do I “fan into flame the gift of God” and incite greater purpose and fulfillment every moment?  With respect to being moved and led by the Holy Spirit, do we have to “feel it”?

    Phil 3:13-14

    Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

    Proverbs 3:5-7

    Trust in the Lord with all your heart 

        and lean not on your own understanding;

    in all your ways submit to him, 

        and he will make your paths straight. 

    Do not be wise in your own eyes; 

        fear the Lord and shun evil.

    What Spiritual disciplines ought we observe daily, regardless of the outcome, to best gird up for battle? …PRAYER, WORD, BODY

    James 1:22-25

    Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.

    1 Peter 4:7-11

    The end of all things is near. Therefore be alert and of sober mind so that you may pray. Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.

    James 5:13-16

    Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

    Is there something clouding our ability to fully turn to God & tap into the Holy Spirit? Is there some unrepented sin or shame or unforgiveness that is impeding the full reward of walking with God? 

    Gal 5:7-9

    You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth? That kind of persuasion does not come from the one who calls you. “A little yeast works through the whole batch of dough.” 

    1 John 2:9-11

    Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother is still in the darkness. Anyone who loves their brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in them to make them stumble. But anyone who hates a brother is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness. They do not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded them.

    Romans 12:1-2

    I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

    Gal 5:1

    It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.

    Where do you get your satisfaction from? …from the work you’re doing, or validation from others, or endorphins from tough workout, or worldly distractions? Similar to marriage counseling – don’t let your identity and fulfillment exist only in your spouse. Our foundation of reliance on Jesus and satisfaction in His love SHOULD be the primary source for our fulfillment. 

    Matthew 6:31-33

    Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

    Psalm 51:10-12

    Create in me a clean heart, O God,

        and renew a right spirit within me.

    Cast me not away from your presence,

        and take not your Holy Spirit from me.

    Restore to me the joy of your salvation,

        and uphold me with a willing spirit.

    Missing the usual F2 in a pandemic, how might we better pour those energies and investments of love and connection into those within our home and workplace? Develop a better friendship with spouse or kids. Take responsibility to go deeper in leading them closer to God?

    Hebrews 10:23-25

    Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

  • You are the light in the darkness

    Prayers for those facing Covid and other darkness in their life.

    We explored the power of light in the darkness, how God created the light and gave us the Word. He also gave us the power to choose the right path AND also the power to bring our light to others. How can you be a light in the darkness for others?

    Genesis 1:1-5 1 In the beginning when God created the heavens and the earth, ​2the earth was a formless void and darkness covered the face of the deep, while a wind from God swept over the face of the waters. ​3Then God said, ‘Let there be light’; and there was light. ​4And God saw that the light was good; and God separated the light from the darkness. ​5God called the light Day, and the darkness he called Night. And there was evening and there was morning, the first day.

    John 1:1-8 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. ​He was in the beginning with God. ​All things came into being through him, and without him not one thing came into being. What has come into being in him was life, and the life was the light of all people. ​The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness did not overcome it. ​There was a man sent from God, whose name was John. ​He came as a witness to testify to the light, so that all might believe through him. ​He himself was not the light, but he came to testify to the light.

    Matthew 5:14-16 14 ‘You are the light of the world. A city built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 No one after lighting a lamp puts it under the bushel basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all in the house. ​16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father in heaven.

    Thanks for letting me lead.

    Gitty Up!

  • Sabbath for 3rd F

    Six script studies tackled our bi-weekly 3rd F Zoom call with only minor tech issues. Topic was the concept of Sabbath, in both the old & new testament. Lot of focus on 2020, with all the isolation and chaos being similar to a Sabbath year to refocus and renew with yourself and family.

    NMS: Gypsy worked in a good Old Testament stoning verse, so par for the course. Good group and good discussion as always. Apologies for the Q’s spotty reception.

    Next 3rd F is 12/22. Who will bring home the meaning of Christmas for this Q?

  • Who Are You?

    A four PAX reunited over Zoom for some 3rd F. Thankfully, none had used the notes that YHC posted for last time, because that was the basis for our discussion.

    The Headline Analyzer says that “Big Gulp and Hot Fries” is a better headline than “Who Are You?”, but what does it know? Probably some algorithmic bias in the AI…

    The 3rd F continues Tuesday, December 8th at 8pm. SYITG!

  • Lasagna Party

    Lasagna Party

    YHC had some free time on his 49th birthday before a dinner reservation, so what better way to spend it than by Breaking Bread and sharing some celebratory cheer with the Medical Respite residents. Here’s how it went:

    Warmarama: 20 minute run to Kroger for Lemonade/Iced Tea 2 Liters x 2, cupcakes x 12, caesar salad kit + tupperware bowl x 2, and lasagna fixings.

    The Thang: preheat oven to 350. Brown 1.5 lbs ground beef and 1 lb hot italian sausage and 2 minced garlic cloves, drain and add crushed tomatoes x 28 oz and tomato paste x 12 oz, 2 TBS basil, 2 TBS dried parsley 1 tsp salt and simmer 20 min. In medium bowl, combine 2 beaten eggs, 3 cu. cottage cheese, 1/2 cu. parmesan cheese, 2 TBS dried parsley, 1 tsp salt. In 9 x 13 pan, assemble:

    1. layer oven ready lasagna noodles
    2. layer cottage cheese mixture
    3. 8 oz. sliced mozzarella
    4. half of meat/tomato mixture

    repeato and top with grated parmesan. Bake 20-30 minutes until top bubbles.

    Mosey to 180 Belt Blvd and start unloading grub. MedRespPAX having smoke break in parking lot offers to help carry bags, learns that it is dinner and expresses deep gratitude. Site Q Barbara receives dinner and $15 Starbucks gift card and expresses appreciation for efforts of Upchuck & F3RVA.

    NMMS: YHC echoes everything Upchuck has said and written about how much the Medical Respite folks appreciate any time and effort that we put in to share our blessings with them. Just as a brutal 1stF beatdown will bring you closer to the PAX who sweat through it with you, humble 3rdF engagement with people who need a helping hand will bring you closer to those whom you serve and to the best version of yourself. For the scholarly minded, in a recently published article in the Journal of Positive Psychology (“Prosocial behavior increases perceptions of meaning in life”) Nadav Klein wrote:

    The present results appear to coincide with well-known
    aphorisms suggesting that to find meaning in life, one
    must be motivated by something ‘greater’ than oneself.
    In philosophy, Ralph Waldo Emerson is quoted as saying
    that ‘the purpose of life is not to be happy’, but rather ‘it is
    to be useful’ to others (Brown, 2000). In literature, Charles
    Dickens (1864) echoes a similar sentiment through the
    main character in the novel Our Mutual Friend: ‘no one
    is useless in this world who lightens the burden of it for
    anyone else’. In religion, the Bible suggests an association
    between prosociality and meaning in life (e.g. Galatians,
    5:13–14) and Buddhism promotes benevolence (mettā),
    sympathy (muditā), and compassion (karuṇā) as essential
    qualities necessary for enlightenment. The conventional
    wisdom that meaning is generated by being useful to
    other people appears to have solid empirical foundations.

    http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/17439760.2016.1209541

    TLDR: To live third is to live well. SYITG!

    Doublemint

  • Breaking Bread: We Need You – Now TWO Nights Per Month

    Breaking Bread: We Need You – Now TWO Nights Per Month

    We talk about being HIMs. High. Impact. Men. This message is about asking for your help to make a real-life Impact – both in time and effort – on behalf of a group of people who F3RVA has sponsored for the last 4+ years.

    For those not familiar, F3RVA helps by feeding residents in the Medical Respite facility at the Southside Health Center. This is on the Q sign-up sheet as, “Breaking Bread.” 

    The PAX (sometimes multiple PAX and/or with their family/kids) sign up to bring dinner to 10-15 people recovering from injuries or illnesses at the Medical Respite Clinic on Belt Blvd. This is a place for those who have no other place to recover.

    Most of us will never need Medical Respite. For that matter, most of us will never have a reason to drive on Belt Blvd. Due to COVID, other groups have stopped providing meals. That is F3RVA’s reason to step-up. We are going to take TWO nights per month instead of one (fourth Saturday and fourth Sunday). That means your F3RVA brothers are asking you to step-up. Some PAX have already volunteered to take on the extra load (t-claps; you know who you are). YHC asks that you do the same. Look for the sign-up slots on the Q Sheet. Look for reminders from YHC, who thanks you in advance. And, for those of you who have a Q during the week, please make an Announcement that we need PAX to commit themselves to making an Impact. Sign up.

    For those who believe that making a group dinner sounds hard, it is not. 

    1. You choose the menu. 
    2. You make dinner for 10-15 humans. 
    3. You deliver it at 5:30 p.m. (even the time is perfect for F3). Note: due to COVID, we simply deliver the food – we are not allowed inside the building to serve. 
    4. The residents will open the door to take the food.
    5. The residents will thank you profusely. 
    6. You are done. 

    Boom. It’s far easier than a Spit Q, the IPC, a CSAUP, or any exercise that references murdering (or murderous) varmints. 

    These people need F3RVA’s help (meaning YOUR help). As YHC has said many times, if you want to impress your M with a monologue about an F3 event, your best option is to make and deliver dinner for Breaking Bread. Tell her about that. Unlike an incessant description of the length of Twin Team hill, how to count the number of reps times steps in the Amphitheater, or anything involving a “coupon,” this activity will impress her. Involving your kids will impress her more.

    Sign up on the Q sheet. Reach out to me with questions. Make an Impact.

  • Your Tipping Point

    RVA’s virtual 3rd F men’s open faith discussion covered the book of Job.
    In the land of Uz there lived a man whose name was Job. This man was blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil.
    We read that Job did not have a tipping point to drive him away from his integrity and faith.
    Would you?
    What is it?
    Can you identify it and harden yourself against it now?
    Where is your Shield lock if you were to hit this tipping point event?
    Who will sit with you for 7 days in silence?

    6 men of RVA talked over these questions and personal tipping points.

    BUT

    1st Rule of 3rd F… What happens in 3rd F stays in 3rd F.
    You gotta show to know

    Follow the RVA 3RD F channel to gather start times and location

    v/r
    John (Gypsy) Boles

  • You Know What Time It Is

    A four PAX donned the armor and locked shields for a disclaimer and The Thang bundled in a COT.

    The plan is to continue the 3rd F biweekly at 8pm on Tuesdays on Zoom at least through the end of the year. Check Slack or PM for the link.

    The next 3rd F is Tuesday, September 29th at 8pm on Zoom. Mark your calendars – Gypsy with the Q!

  • 3rd F Hot Potato

    The Q for the 3rd F opened up at about 4pm, but 5 PAX posted to show that a meaningful 3rd F hot potato can be had.

    There seemed to be a theme in the PAX names of single-word compound names. The next 3rd F is open to all PAX.

    Prayers for YHC’s mother-in-law as she undergoes surgery today.

    The next 3rd F is on Zoom on Tuesday, July 21st at 8pm. The Q is open!

    The plan is to continue meeting virtually biweekly through August 18th, then transition to in-person meetings in each nano-region. YHC’s church is a resource with discussion materials and questions, so Qing is no more difficult than a regular beatdown.

  • !F3RVA Events at NoToll!

    6/30 – THIS Tuesday – Ultimate Frisbee – 0530-0615

    7/4 – F3RVA July 4th Convergence – 0600-0700

    7/12 – SOJ PuppyPile – 0700-0800